Trust Me, You Are More Than Enough

If I could offer any words of wisdom to the younger generations, I think I would want you to know that you are more than enough.

There will always be people who will treat you like you are not enough. Please do not listen to them. It is not up to anyone else to determine your value.

This applies to pretty much everyone.

We are meant to be our authentic self. I know that I am not for everybody and that is okay. It took me awhile to fully comprehend and embrace this ideology.

My mother was very good about guiding us to be independent people. She always said she went from her childhood home to living with her husband. When it imploded due to his alcoholism, she said she struggled a bit more than she thought because she did not have that foundation of independence. She found it, for sure, and wanted us to have a healthy self worth, confidence in our own abilities as it relates to our education, finances and physical and emotional well being.

So even with her guiding me as I have maneuvered through my life, there have been times when I have allowed the words of other people to influence my decisions or actions.

It happens. Mental wellbeing is fluid. Some days we are firing on all cylinders. Some days we are feeling the weight of opinions and question our decisions. Sometimes, it changes several times during the day, right?

My point is this. You are not meant to love or be loved by everyone. It’s quite literally impossible. It’s okay. It’s more than okay.

We date people and it doesn’t work out. It doesn’t mean either of you is a “bad person”, it just means you are not good for each other. It’s okay.

We take jobs and they end up not aligning with our objectives. It doesn’t mean the company is not a good company, it just doesn’t align with us. It’s okay.

Have some grace with yourself. Accept who you are and love that person. If there is something you don’t like or want to be, take the steps to change it. If you want to be more organized, make a list, use an agenda or whatever you can do to become more organized. It’s okay.

You are responsible for you. You are perfectly imperfect.